Blogpost 9: Introvert or Extrovert?

Being introvert is not about "alone." It's not about being uncertain around other people. Introversion is about being less involved or to be the center of attention. When you are in a spotlight, it is not an important thing to be involved in it. "The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking." says Cain S. 
Extrovert, in difference, love being the social attention. It ignite them and bring out their best qualities. 

But you, who are reading this blog cannot be easily defined if you are classified as an introvert or extrovert. I've read an article entitled  "Are You Really an Introvert or Extrovert?" by Todd B. Kashdan from the website www.psychologytoday.com. He discussed about the personality style that changes in predictable ways. 

There are many people who's characteristics changes in different ways. Psychologist call them "situationally bound extroverts." Todd share something in his life. Large dinner parties where the guest are sitting around a table in a suitable manner pull his introverted side. Anyone who are in the party can confirm this. Being introvert doesn't mean that his more introspective,defensive,creative, anxious and talk less. What it really means is that his not interested being the center of attention because he doesn't find it as interesting. He would like to have short conversation than sharing stories or humor.Like him, the extroverted behaviors might be awkward in easily ways. Considering a short social situations:

• Unclear rules and standards
• Clear power of imbalance between you and others present
• Desiring outcome conflicts with someone else's
• Open to a possible sexual or romantic conversation when there are more strangers than friends that are there

The important thing is to discover the strong situations that pull the sides of your personality (extroversion or introversion). The same as the importance that can be said for knowing what will happen in a situations when you are in a spotlight is like a bad thing than a good thing. The parent that knows this can react easily about the change of his kids. The romantic partner that know something about this can create more loving atmosphere for a lifetime.

Todd said to his article that "Don't let yourself be classified as any simpler than necessary." This means that we should not let ourselves be classified as easily to understand.It would be better if we are going to be known as determined, existing and most important thing is to be needed.